Motherhood Mission Statement
*I wrote this exactly five years ago when I was pregnant with Harlow*
Above all else, I promise to love you. I will always be your rock, even when you don't want me to be. I will be fierce on your behalf until you have reached the point in life where you are able to be fierce for yourself. I anticipate that you and I will fight a lot, especially in your teenage years, because I am going to raise you to be a strong woman. Know that even if we are fighting, even if I don't particularly like you in the heat of battle, I will always love you.
I will teach you to love yourself. I will never put you down and I will not tolerate you putting yourself down. I created you. For nine goddamn months, I grew you in my body. You are made from me and from your dad and we have loved each other well and the result of that love is you. Therefore, any argument that you may come up with down the road about why you might not be good enough is moot. You are good enough. You are more than good enough. I will teach you confidence. I will tell you how beautiful you are but I will not allow your value to be determined by your looks. Your value is determined by your strength of character and, my god girl, you are going to be a phenomenal human.
I will teach you that there is nothing shameful about your body. Your body is wonderful and capable of healing itself and it carries you from place to place. Your body is built to withstand great pain and to experience great pleasure. There is nothing shameful about it.
I will never hide important things from you. I may hide my cookie stash from you, but mama needs her Thin Mints, ok? I will tell you about life and death. I will tell you about sex (gross, mom). I will most likely swear in front of you- a lot. I will make out with your dad in front of you (groooosss, mom). I will drink wine in front of you. I will tell you about the stupid mistakes I made in my youth and the lessons I learned from them. If you have a question, I will not be shy about answering it. I value your knowledge and education much more than I will ever value societal propriety.
If you choose to follow religion, I will support you as long as you educate yourself about it. If you choose not to follow religion, I will support you as well. I will teach you that your moral compass is not reliant upon a religion or spirituality, but if you decide that religion makes sense to you, I will be your biggest supporter.
If you are straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transexual, asexual, non-binary, queer, or if you don't actually fall under the confines of any label I will love you and educate myself about you and I will support you to the ends of the earth.
I will teach you the importance of reading. Of constantly learning. I will vigilantly correct your grammar and spelling. I'm not going to lie, it's going to be annoying, but you'll thank me for it later.
I will teach you to be self-sufficient.
I will teach you to fight against ignorance, no matter who the source of that ignorance is.
I will encourage your passions.
I will show up for you.
I will put you first.
I will spend quality time with your dad away from you, because in order for me to be the best mom, I need to be reminded of who I am outside of you.
I will give you space.
I will allow you to make mistakes and learn from them.
I will love myself so that I can love you better.
I will kick some ass for you if you need it.
I will know all of your tricks.
I will catch you in all of your lies.
I will be your greatest ally.
I will be your worst nightmare when you are awful.
I will say "sorry" and admit when I'm wrong because I expect that from you.
But, most of all, above everything, I will love you and try to encourage you to be the best person you can be.